Dalrock writes a fantastic post:
They think that by making him vacuum, dust, change diapers, or whatever, they will transfer the consuming feeling of resentment from themselves to their husbands**. But the source of the misery is in the woman’s own rejection of being a woman, in her own heart, not in anything inherent to the work itself. This is why it only makes wives more miserable when their husbands cheerfully do these very easy tasks. They wanted to make him suffer, to feel the shame (in their minds) of being a woman, but maddeningly he feels no such thing.You can test all of this by offering suggestions to the next woman who complains to you that her husband doesn’t do enough housework.
That test almost always works regardless of what the women are whining about.